All aspects of our being our intertwined. We cannot separate the impact that one area has on another. Each facet—spiritual, relational, mental, vocational, financial, physical, emotional—they all feed one another, for better or for worse. We must be intentional about starting somewhere in building for the better. The good news is that regardless of where you start, if you feed with the right things, they will all build into one another and aid in the growth of the other areas. So just begin and know that it will spill over to other areas independent of where you choose to begin the process. I want to start routinely sharing thoughts and habits we can implement in various areas of our self / life. This is the first!
BTW, this is how I approach my coaching—by looking at the entire person in the whole picture. If you are struggling in one area, it is going to have an impact on other areas, whether you realize it or not. I’ve talked about my story before here and here; how one new healthy discipline / habit was the catalyst for improvements in all other areas—who knew weight training would lead to elimination of over $100,000 in debt! If you are interested in starting this process yourself, you can contact me here, read about my 1:1 coaching options here! I also have a variety of coaching “add on” options which are outlined here.
🦊 Catch The Little Foxes 🦊
Song of Solomon describes a relational habit which allows us to not only prevent small problems from becoming big problems, but also to see the full potential of our relationships with others.
“Catch for us the little foxes; the little foxes that spoil and ruin the vineyards [of love], while our vineyards are in blossom.” Song of Solomon 2:15
Something you may not know is that foxes are omnivorous, meaning they eat both animals and plants. I actually had no idea until I started looking deeper at this scripture the other morning after being prompted by the Lord to do so. They will eat
Two points from this passage:
1️⃣ The little foxes may not be able to get to “larger things,” but they can still get to things that need protection now. Specifically in this verse is mentioned the buds that are growing in the vineyard of their relationship. If the foxes are able to get in and eat the budding fruit, then all of the hard work spent planting and caring for the vineyard of love may be cut short. Yes, the vineyard itself may still be beautiful in its own right, but it will never produce the harvest of fruit if the buds are eaten. Our relationships with others are meant to create a beautiful place for us to find peace and rest, but they are also designed to make us productive and beneficial to those around us via good works and fruit. This is especially noted within the context of a marriage relationship, but it applies to our other relationships as well.
2️⃣ The foxes will grow in size and soon be able to attack other things as well. If we let them grow by ignoring the present trouble they are causing, that unaddressed issue will eventually come back around in an even larger form.
Relational issues left unaddressed will: 1️⃣ steal your harvest and 2️⃣ eventually show up larger than before. What this means is that we must be intentional (before things get out of hand) to address the uncomfortable and sneaky things that could not only damage our relationships, but also steal the fruit those relationships are intended to yield.
🚫 Don’t avoid the difficult subjects.
✅ Do approach them in love.
“As iron sharpens iron, so people can improve each other.” Proverbs 27:17
While it may be uncomfortable, the most loving thing that we can do for the relationship (and even for ourselves) is to follow this Biblical principle in protecting our relationships and improving ourselves in the process.
I’d love to hear from you!