#75Hard Day 29: Examine The Narrative & Question The Meaning

▶️ Quote reference “everything is my fault” from @TomBilyeu / @LisaBilyeu.
▶️ I loved the analogy found within a devotional that a member of my church small group text me today. The gist was that you are holding a cup of coffee and someone bumps into you. The coffee spills on you. Why did the coffee spill on you? The natural tendency is to say it spilled on you because the person bumped you. The reality is that when we look at the situation plainly, the coffee spilled on you because there was coffee in the cup. If there was tea in the cup, then tea would’ve spilled on you.
▶️ The point of the devotion was that what we store up in our hearts and minds will spill out of us when we are bumped by life.
▶️ I loved the meaning behind it, but I also think that it offers another meaning as well…
▶️ I personally feel that we could say that coffee spilled on us when bumped because we did not put a lid on the cup, or because we filled the cup up too high, or because we weren’t paying attention enough not to get bumped, etc.
▶️ I choose to see how I could take personal responsibility in this circumstance, and to find multiple meanings behind it.
▶️ With regard to things that happen which cause is frustration, we need to question the stories that we’re telling our self behind why they happened. We may not get to choose our circumstance, but we get to choose the meaning behind them and then that determines the final outcome.
▶️ My challenge to you is to do some work and question things that perpetually pop up and are frustration points for you. Could it be that you are telling yourself a limiting story? You can go to work on changing the narrative you’re telling yourself to one that outfits you with the ability to take full ownership and responsibility.
▶️ When we take full ownership and responsibility, we are empowered to act upon the circumstance instead of feeling that the circumstance acting upon us. We shift from a state of helplessness to empowerment. That drives better outcomes.
▶️ How do you think you could implement this in your own life?

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